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Saving Grace

A friend of mine found this story I wrote on Facebook and I thought it was good to repeat it here.  So here goes…

Several years ago, I found myself crying most every day, depressed about all the time, struggling in lots of ways. I know I had made bad choices in my life. Plus, other people hurt me, used me, manipulated me, then threw me away. I would think that if this, or that, circumstance would change, then things would be better. So, I would do the best I could to make the circumstances change, only nothing got better. I felt like I was in a tailspin heading for a crash. It felt like even my body was going to explode at some point. Nothing made me happy and I had no peace inside. Just turmoil and lots of pain. Complete hopelessness! I even contemplated suicide. (I know how horrible it is to the family, so I didn’t contemplate it long).

I know there are a lot of people out there that feel the same way.

So, what did I do to turn things around? I gave up. I gave up trying to make life better. I gave up trying to control my circumstances. I gave up doing things my way. And I gave my life and heart to Jesus. I repented (said I was sorry) for having been rebellious (which was doing things my way), and told Him that I would start living for Him. I found out that the word for repentance means, “to turn and go in the opposite direction”. So I turned and went in another direction. I stopped doing things that the Bible said I shouldn’t do, like what the 10 commandments say. Then I started reading the New Testament and finding out what I was supposed to live my life like. To follow after Jesus.

From that point on, my life started to turn around and change for the better. It takes some time to turn the Titanic around (I was headed for the iceberg). But it did turn around. The peace that flooded into me was like nothing I have ever known before. And as I have made right choices, I have seen the rewards that come with them. Through the Bible I have learned that I am not the lowest slime on the earth. I found out that I am tremendously loved. That I was worth the sacrifice that Jesus made, to die on the cross. That I was worth everything to Him. He died for me so that He wouldn’t have to live without me. And He gave me the choice to accept His wonderful, beautiful gift of eternal life. Wow!

 

The Canoe Trip

How do I start?  I loved canoeing as a teenager in high school and even afterwards.  Then life got busy, working lots of hours and I didn’t do it for a couple decades.

My husband said he used to go all the time with his parents when he was young and really enjoyed it.

I know my brother, Rusty, liked to canoe, so I asked him and his now ex-wife to go with us.  When we were paying for the trip, the guy asked us if we wanted to go the three mile or the ten mile trip.  Me, being all gung-ho, said let’s do the ten miles.

So, me and Tom get in our canoe and head down the river.  I’m in front, paddling.  We start heading for the bank, so I switch my paddle to the other side of the boat.  Then we zing to the other side of the river towards that bank.  My brother’s canoe is calmly going right down the middle of the river.  He ends up pulling away by a far piece, probably to avoid all the yelling going on in our canoe.

My canoe bounced from bank to bank and back again.  At one point, I grabbed ahold of a large tree, that was jutting out over the river, before being slammed into it.  I think that veer was intentional…

I kept asking Tom what he was doing and he said paddling.  I said, “I thought you said you loved canoeing and did it a lot as a kid.”  He said, “Yes, but I was always in the middle, and my mom and dad did all the paddling.”  That explains a lot.

I don’t know why we couldn’t sync together and go down the middle of the river, but those ten miles seemed like one hundred, and was probably at least 30 miles, the zigzag way.  I kept telling him to paddle on the opposite side that I was on, to go straight, but it never happened.

So, my advice would be, before canoeing with anyone, get a background check to see how they came about learning to paddle.  And then ask their family and friends.

I never lost my voice canoeing before.  First time for everything, I guess.

 

Andrea and the Snake

After a second divorce, I found a 150 year old brick home, on 7 acres, and bought it for a very reasonable price. It was the home of my dreams. All it needed was the white picket fence in front. It was so cool! It had a fireplace in the basement that was part of the original log cabin, with a swing arm for cooking in it.

The yard had only been mowed around the house, and the lawn between the house and the pond was allowed to grow up. There were big stalks from where big weeds had grown. I didn’t think much about it, till summer came and I started mowing it.

Being a single mom, I got a push mower and started mowing on Sunday, then and hour or so around work schedules and children’s schedules, every day all week to get the whole thing mowed, down to the pond. Then start back at the top again on Sunday.

The first day, while mowing, there was a 3 foot cream and brown snake between me and my mower. I jumped and started yelling, “Snake, snake”, only to be there standing by myself wondering who was going to kill the snake. So, I had to get braver and started wearing my work boots and carrying a hoe along the handle of the mower.

That summer, there were nine different colors of snakes that I encountered between the mower and me. Most were under the two foot range, if bigger, too big for under the mower. I “put out of their misery”, over 30 snakes that summer. I guess they had moved in where the grass had been high. It wasn’t like that any summer after that. I kept it mowed, thank goodness.

My daughter, Andrea, was just about a teenager. I was on afternoon shift at the factory where I worked, and had asked her to take the compost to the garden while I finished getting ready for work. She came in about two minutes later and was white as a sheet. She said, “Mom, I just stepped on a snake in my bare feet”. So, I’m thinking, a six inch snake. “Let’s go see”, I said taking the hoe with me. Also in my bare feet. We got to the back steps where she said she stepped off of and onto the coiled snake. I thought it was so small that we couldn’t see it in the grass.

Then something caught my eye to my right and there was a four foot snake “running” for the woods. I ran with my hoe and swung. It was hard to hit a big moving “S” shape. I got it about a foot behind the head and it came at me with mouth wide open. Andrea, of course, was supporting me from way behind. Out of big fear, I started swinging the hoe and chopping a lot. It finally quit trying to get me and went to snake heaven. If there is one. Which I doubt.

I was probably white as a sheet by the time the battle was done. My theory is if I let it go, it will come back bigger the next time.  That was one day I was glad to go to work.  If something would have touched my leg in the car, I probably would have wrecked it.

A Neat Encounter

Since I don’t have chickens at this time, I thought it would be a good idea to plant squash in my chicken run.  Lots of fertilizer at the ready 🙂

I went down to water them and had this little guy on the coop door.  I’ve never seen a moth like this before.  He didn’t move, so I stood there and studied him for awhile.

Last year, I had a luna moth that stayed here for a few days.  It was so neat to watch it and look at it up close.

I also have resident praying mantises that I love to watch.  I like it when I find the egg case or sac in the cold months.  And especially like it if I get to see the babies in the spring.  I try to locate them when mowing to stay clear of where they are.  However, they always jump me if they take off flying and I don’t know they are nearby.

I suppose that insects don’t pay us much mind (unless they are a mosquito), but it sure is nice to get to watch them and see them up close sometimes.  I always got my children those insect cages, to trap and watch insects, when they were young.  I probably enjoyed it as much as they did.

Here are a couple of this years batch of baby praying mantises.  Second picture is a little left of center.  So cute!

My Sister

I came into the world in the usual way, a mother and a father.  When my mother found out that he liked to date other women while he was married, she promptly divorced him.  I was 18 months old and my brother was just born.

My biological father, not wanting to pay child support, let my stepfather adopt us two.  My stepfather has been the most wonderful Dad for us! A story for another time…

So my biological father married someone else and started another family, then moved a few hours away and I never saw him again.  My brother, however, wanted to meet him and did, and knew him for many years before he died.

My brother kept telling me that there was 2 step brothers, and a step-sister.  He would tell me how nice she was and how we had the same laugh.  “She’s really nice and I know you’d like her”, he would always tell me, trying to make me want to meet her.

I was always kind of afraid that if I did, I would have to meet the biological father and I couldn’t seem to want to face it.  So, after he passed, my brother got me thinking about her again and I said I would like to meet her.

I took my brother, and mother (she already liked her) with me and we met at a restaurant half way between us.  My favorite color is purple, and when she came in she had purple glasses on and a purple case for her phone (her favorite color).  I have one too.  We both have a big love of music.  She plays the guitar and keyboard.  I just like to sing.  I don’t have a good voice, just the heart for it. 🙂  We talked a little, we cried a little, and when we left each other, we exchanged phone numbers.

Within a few weeks, I called her and said I just missed her and wanted to talk some more.  For being in my 50’s, I thought I was pretty brave to venture to a place I was afraid to go before.  And I am so glad that I did.  We text and talk and see each other very often and I wonder how I ever lived without her.  I always wanted a sister.

In the Patch

Aww, they’re back!  Those luscious, lip-smacking, little jewels of sweetness!  Also, known as black raspberries.  My friend Stephanie and I rode the 4-wheelers out back and searched the parameters of the tree lines.   Quick stops when we see a patch of red and black.

We found a big pile of poo in the patch.  I always ask my husband if it is bear poo, because they have been seen in our county.  He always says no, it’s raccoon poo.  I think he tells me that so I will keep going out in the woods.

I left my key in the on position on my 4-wheeler and when I got back, the battery was dead.  Or so I thought.  So, we rode together on one machine the last hour of our picking.  When Tom went out with me to get it, he said you probably forgot to get it out of gear before shutting it off.  And sure enough, I had.  Ooops!  At least we didn’t have to tow it back to the house.

I should have enough raspberries after another picking to make a batch of jam.  I can hardly wait.  Maybe I’ll add some jalapenos…

Grandma’s in the House – Naps

Grandma likes her naps.  She would go to sleep at 8:30 in the evening and set her alarm to wake up at 5:30 am.  I thought that was a lot of sleep for someone her age, but then she also takes about six naps a day.

I had wrote down television channels that she liked and could punch the number in to go to that channel, instead of trying to operate the remote.  She had it so messed up we had to have a technician straighten it out.  She liked mostly westerns and the Catholic channel.

So, every half hour, she would turn the television on to a show she liked, doze off for a 10 minute nap or so.  Wake up, turn the television back off and say she doesn’t watch it, but she knows what time all of her programs come on…

Sometimes she would watch a show for a whole half hour before turning it off.  And yes, we did have to replace the bulb in the television because all that on and off, blew it out.  That’s what the technician said. (smirk)

Even at night, when we would sit down to watch some television, she would fall asleep through the evening.  She says she never naps.

However, when she would see my husband, Tom, in his easy chair with his feet up, starting to snore, she would bump his feet and say, “Don’t you have some work to do?”  We didn’t nap, that’s for sure.

Tom said when he was little, Grandma would be outside for a while giving orders to the family what to do around their dairy farm.  He said when he would go into the house for something, she was always napping in a chair.  Hmmm…I think Grandma has always liked her naps.

Grandma’s in the House – The Catssss

Grandma had six cats when she was going to move in with us.  She was going to have them put down (to put it nicely), and we told her to bring them here.  They got ahold of 4 of them to put in cat carriers and brought them to our house.  The grandson who lived next door, kept the other two.  After trying to tear the cages apart, they made it down here.  We put butter on their feet so they couldn’t find their way back where they had come from, and they all scattered from the nice warm barn we gave them to sleep and live in.

They were back that evening and still here the next day, which I was glad of at the time.

Gma came with two 20 pound bags of cat food, different kinds, that we were to mix together, because the cats like it that way.  They are too fussy to eat only one kind of food at a time.  However, whenever they get in the garage where my cats are, they woof down my singular kind of cat food, like there’s no tomorrow.  Gma buys the expensive stuff, I buy Dad’s cat food.

Two of those cats do everything they can to get into the garage.  These cats came with enough blankets and rugs to wrap a sheik in comfort.  They are nicely sprawled over soft mounds of straw so they can sleep in softness like a kitty cloud.  Yet, they try to dig under the doors to get into my garage, where there are no such comforts.  They follow me over and wait at the door until I come out, then try to out-maneuver me to get in.

Oh yeah, and when I go down to feed the precious darlings in the morning, Gma hands me two wet PAPER TOWELS to clean out their precious dishes so they can eat, because cats don’t like to eat or drink in a dirty pan.  I think that’s funny, because after I clean and pour fresh water, they always go out and drink out of the mud puddles…

Grandma’s in the House – The Doorbell

Grandma has hearing aids in both ears.  She can hear somewhat good; things like the telephone, conversations when you’re looking at her, etc.  What she has a hard time with is someone knocking on the door and the doorbell.

We’ll be sitting and watching television when I hear the doorbell ring.  I’ll get up and go let whoever in.  They walk in and she will look at me and say, “How did you know they were here?”  Same goes when they knock.  “How did you know they were here?”

One day, we had a guy coming to lay out the forms for some concrete under our back awning.  Gma was watching for him, because we were all working.  My mom brought over some corn on the cob and rang the doorbell.  Gma had been looking outside (another story, another time), and saw them, so she opened the door.  Somehow the doorbell got stuck in the “ring” position and the doorbell was going off every little bit.

Andrea, my daughter, worked afternoon shift and was sleeping.  She heard the doorbell ringing, got up and checked the front and back doors and since no one was there, went back in.  Gma was getting off of the couch and going to the door, looking out.  Then she thought she heard the stove buzzer going off and couldn’t find out how to stop it (my stove didn’t have a buzzer).  Andrea said that this was going on for 20 minutes.  So, she went outside and found that the doorbell had gotten stuck.  She unstuck it, thank goodness!  Gma would have worn herself out going back and forth.  She’s still not convinced it was the doorbell.  She never hears the dryer buzzer either…

Grandma’s in the House – Paper Towels

Grandma was with us for four days and had gone through three jumbo rolls of paper towels.  That may not seem like an unusual amount to you, but we use one jumbo roll in 3 or 4 weeks!  Needless to say, I was stunned at the volume of paper towels she uses.  When she moved in, she brought an economy pack the size of a grocery cart, with her.  I thought she was being thrifty, but now I know that’s her weekly consumption of paper towels.  She probably kills a tree a week.

Every time I look at her, she has a damp paper towel in one hand or the other.  Sometimes both.  My bag of stuff to burn fills up almost daily and it is extremely easy to light.  Why?  You guessed it, paper towels.  She would dry dishes with them, if I would let her.  She says they dry better.  I’m thinking I need to start a lot of tree seedlings.

I’d like to get it on camera and then fast forward all the paper towel use in one day.  It’s probably some kind of record.  There is even a clean paper towel on top of the placemats I have on our dining room table.  I guess they keep the placemats cleaner.

I’ve also noticed that the Kleenex and toilet tissue disappear with the speed of light.  Maybe it has something to do with that generation.  It was probably a new invention at some point in her life and she fell in love with the convenience and good drying qualities of paper products.  Much better than rags.